Breastfeeding: Ancient Wisdom, Modern Preparation
Breastfeeding is one of the most natural things we can do—but that doesn’t mean it always comes naturally.
That truth can come as a shock to many new parents. For generations, people were surrounded by community: elders, cousins, neighbors, friends. You would have seen breastfeeding all the time, at home, at the market, during a walk, while cooking dinner. You would have watched aunts tandem feed their babies, cousins deal with latch struggles, or neighbors breastfeed each other’s children when needed. You would have grown up knowing that a cracked nipple is common in the beginning, but not something you have to suffer through. You would have heard about cluster feeding before it happened to you at 3 AM.
That collective wisdom was passed down naturally through storytelling, shared moments, and lived experience. Today, most of us are parenting in silos. We often don’t see someone breastfeed until it’s our turn, and by then, the learning curve can feel steep and isolating.
But you don’t have to go it alone.
Preparing for Breastfeeding Starts in Pregnancy
Just like you might prepare for labor or set up your nursery, preparing for breastfeeding during pregnancy makes a big difference. The early days of feeding are not only about learning technique but also about navigating hormones, healing, building a milk supply, and adjusting to your new normal.
When you understand what’s typical in those early days, it can take so much pressure off. For example:
Your baby may want to feed constantly in the beginning, and that’s normal
Your milk might not come in right away, and that’s okay, too
There are multiple latching positions, and what works may change from day to day
Cluster feeding doesn’t mean you’re not producing enough. It’s actually how babies boost your supply
Knowing what to expect means less fear and more confidence. It allows you to meet challenges with tools instead of panic.
Breastfeeding Is a Living Tradition
Across every generation and culture, breastfeeding has connected us. It’s deeply human. When you breastfeed your baby, you are continuing a story that stretches across centuries and cultures. You are not alone in this; it’s something that links us to those who came before and those who will come after.
But just because breastfeeding is timeless doesn’t mean the experience is universal. Some people love every moment of it. Others struggle and choose to supplement or stop. The goal isn’t perfection, it’s having a healthy relationship with feeding and your body, whatever that looks like for you.
Build Your Village
In the absence of a built-in village, we have to be intentional about building one.
Find a breastfeeding professional you trust (I’m happy to help—virtually and in person!)
Attend a breastfeeding prep class before baby arrives, so you're not scrambling for help when you're sleep-deprived and extra hormonal
Surround yourself with supportive voices; those who won't judge or pressure, but will truly listen
Learn what’s typical and when to get help so you don’t wait too long or suffer in silence
You deserve to feel empowered in your feeding journey, whatever form it takes.
You’re Not Meant to Do This Alone
If you're pregnant and wondering how to get ready for breastfeeding, I offer a virtual breastfeeding prep class that walks you through everything from colostrum to pumping. You'll learn about hunger cues, latch positions, building supply, cluster feeding, and more. It's practical, realistic, and centered around helping you feel informed, not overwhelmed.
Already had your baby? I also offer in-person lactation support in New Jersey and virtual consultations if you’re elsewhere.
Breastfeeding is not just about nutrition; it’s also about connection. To your baby. To yourself. To the mothers and caregivers who came before. And to a community of people walking this path alongside you, even if you haven't met them yet.
You’ve got this. And I’ve got you.
