Breastfeeding Isn’t Free (And It’s Not Easy)
Let’s Be Honest: Breastfeeding Is Harder Than Anyone Says
You know the line: “Breastfeeding is natural.”
And yes, it is natural.
But “natural” doesn’t always mean “easy.” It doesn’t mean instinctive. And it definitely doesn’t mean free.
Breastfeeding requires time, energy, learning, support, and a whole lot of emotional capacity that new parents aren’t always prepared for. As a doula who has supported dozens of families through those first raw weeks, I want to tell the truth: you’re not failing if this feels hard. It’s hard for most people.
Why Breastfeeding Isn’t Actually Free
The Cost of Time
Breastfeeding can take hours a day, literally! Cluster feeding, growth spurts, pumping, washing pump parts, feeding again… Time is a currency, and new parents spend a lot of it feeding their baby.
The Cost of Supplies
People often think bottle feeding costs money, and breastfeeding doesn’t.
But breastfeeding often comes with:
Pumps
Flanges
Storage Bags
Nursing bras
Nipple cream
Lactation consults
Nursing pads
Pump part replacements
And more. It adds up in ways parents don’t always expect.
The Emotional Cost
Breastfeeding impacts your mental health more than you might imagine. There’s pressure, fear of not producing enough, pain, exhaustion, and the overwhelming responsibility of being the “only” one who can feed the baby.
Many parents feel trapped, touched out, isolated, or overstimulated during this stage. No one talks about that part enough.
The Physical Cost
Your body is producing nourishment constantly. Breastfeeding requires extra calories, hydration, and rest—things new parents often lack. If breastfeeding feels draining... that’s because it is.
Why Breastfeeding Is So Hard (Even When You Want to Do It)
Latching Is a Learned Skill
Babies aren’t born knowing how to latch well. Parents aren’t born knowing how to position a baby. It’s a skill learned through practice, support, and troubleshooting.
Pain Is Common—but Not Normal
Sore nipples, cracked skin, clogged ducts… These are common, but they’re classic signs you need support, not a sign you should just “power through.”
The Newborn Phase Is Intense
Between sleep deprivation, healing, and constant feeding, it’s no wonder breastfeeding feels like a lot to manage. Your body is doing multiple full-time jobs at once!
You’re Not Failing if Breastfeeding Feels Hard
I want you to hear this clearly:
You’re not doing it wrong.
You’re not weak.
You’re not “less than.”
You’re not alone.
Breastfeeding is a learned skill for both you and your baby, and it requires support, guidance, and patience. Whether you breastfeed for one day, one year, or not at all… You are a great parent.
How a Doula Can Support You Through Breastfeeding Challenges
Hands-On Guidance at Home
Positioning, latch help, bottle-feeding support, pumping tips, or anything else you may need.
Emotional Support Without Judgment
There is no right or wrong feeding choice. You deserve someone who will hold space for your goals.
Connecting You With Lactation Resources
If you need more help, a doula can refer you to the right lactation professionals.
Helping You Rest, Nourish Yourself & Reduce Stress
Because you cannot pour—or pump—from an empty cup.
The Bottom Line
Breastfeeding isn’t free. It’s not easy. It’s not instant. And it’s not something you should feel pressured to do alone. Feeding your baby is an act of love, and however you do that is valid, beautiful, and enough.
Let’s Make Feeding Your Baby Feel Less Overwhelming
If you’re struggling with breastfeeding or want support navigating the feeding journey, I’m here for you!
👉 Reach out to book in-home/virtual lactation support or set yourself up for the journey by booking our virtual Prep for Breastfeeding workshop.
You deserve guidance, reassurance, and someone in your corner.
